For example, this is a picture of part of my family members. There's my mom in the middle, my second elder brother on the right, my fourth elder brother on the left and his 1 year old son.
(BTW, my second elder brother has grown so old he looks a lot like my late father when he was in his 50s).
Looking at family pictures is simple, describing those in the pictures is also fairly easy. But when I was invited by my husband's cousin to expand our family trees, man ... it was like doing arithmetic questions followed by some anatomy study.
You see, my late maternal grandmother married 4 times (to 4 different men, of course). She had 4 children, all from different fathers. I was quite ashamed to realize that I have no idea what her third husband's name was. I also don't know the name of my grandfather's father (my moyang). I know my cousins quite well but I don't exactly know their full names.
The thing is, I was not the kind of person who enjoys going to family gatherings, weddings or khenduris. Even during raya, I didn't make an effort to visit all of my relatives for the following reasons:
1. it seemed to me everybody in the kampung is related somehow or rather. So, mana larat nak visit all of them, kan?
2. i never really took a holiday long enough for me to make rounds during raya.
3. when our elderlies introduced us to our relatives, they always used kata ganti nama diri ke lapan belas such as 'your Mak Ngah', 'your Embong', 'your Cha'abang', 'your Kak De'. The full names were always omitted. When it comes to introducing their spouses, it's worse, they'd use 'your Mak Ngah's cousin's hubby' or 'your Kak De's great aunt's uncle's wife'. Now, how was I going to register all those in my not-so-photographic memory?
This is the screen shot of the application I used. It's quite interesting. Maybe you should start your own family tree one of these days and challenge yourself on how many close relatives' names you can spell correctly.